You Were a Spouse Before You Became a Parent

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَـنِ الرَّحِيمِ Escapism is officially defined as: Es·cap·ism (-skpzm) n. The tendency to escape from daily reality or routine by indulging in daydreaming, fantasy, or entertainment. [Reference: The Free Online Dictionary, Thesaurus and Encyclopedia] *** He arrives home at 8:30 p.m, exhausted from the day's work. As he shuts the front door gently, … Continue reading You Were a Spouse Before You Became a Parent

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Life Lessons at the Threshold of 35

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَـنِ الرَّحِيمِ "How do you remember names, places and events that took place decades ago, complete with all the little side details?" "Having a good memory is not always good, you know. It means that you remember the pain of the hurtful aspects of your past. And it also means, that the regret … Continue reading Life Lessons at the Threshold of 35

The Apprentice

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَـنِ الرَّحِيمِ As someone who had no younger sibling; who never in her life babysat any little children for even an hour; who has more than the average penchant for personal privacy, solitude and demarcated boundaries of living space, I often find myself at the receiving end of the following question: How can … Continue reading The Apprentice

Imparting the Blessings of Quran to a Baby – From Before Birth!

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَـنِ الرَّحِيمِ I flip the pages of my Quran mus-haf forward, checking with some concern how many total marked portions of each remaining juz are left before I reach my target. Why, you might wonder? It was back in April this year that excessive vomiting, dehydration and fatigue made me, for the most part, … Continue reading Imparting the Blessings of Quran to a Baby – From Before Birth!

Pamper Your Daughter, Clip Her Wings

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم Her frilly frock flaps in the wind as she goes running to her parents as soon as she feels the prick of a thorn; the pinch of gravel; the sting of an insect. They drop what they are doing to pick her up in their arms, lavish her with attention, and console … Continue reading Pamper Your Daughter, Clip Her Wings

Fasting Ramadan in the Family Way: A Daunting Yet Surmountable Challenge

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم As I begin to write this post, to say that I feel overwhelmed with gratitude to Allah - an intense gratitude that is tinged with incredulous wonder at His benevolence - would perhaps be an understatement. You see, 28 days, ago, I was faced with a challenge - a challenge that … Continue reading Fasting Ramadan in the Family Way: A Daunting Yet Surmountable Challenge

Happy, Havocked HomeFront: Riding The Home Education Wave and Lovin’ It

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَـنِ الرَّحِيمِ My daughter is now 6 years old and my son will soon be 4, اِن شَاءَ الله. Since the past 11 months, I have been homeschooling them and, contrary to how I anticipated this journey to be like at the point when I was about to embark upon it, it is I who … Continue reading Happy, Havocked HomeFront: Riding The Home Education Wave and Lovin’ It

From Infants to Inspectors: Incessantly Intelligent Little Interrogators

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم On our way to an extended family gathering, I floated an idea to my significant other about offering to take all the children of the clan – some of whom were visiting from outside the city – horseback riding along the now-quite-clean stretch of Clifton Beach after dinner. He thought the … Continue reading From Infants to Inspectors: Incessantly Intelligent Little Interrogators

The Adventures of Homeschooling

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم Had someone told me years ago that I'd one day be educating two hyperactive, adorable little mini-me's at home, I would have laughed in their faces and called them the most glib prophesiers ever! Stay at home all day with two naughty little elves always up to something? Never! And here … Continue reading The Adventures of Homeschooling

Sincere Sympathizer or Moody Mama: Disciplining Delinquents With Decency

We mothers have all been there. The ‘bad’ days when we are on edge; cranky, moody and irritable; the day the children repeatedly overstep their boundaries until one of two things happen: either we snap, or something breaks irreparably. That is when all our anger-management vows and self-help resolutions go out the window, making us … Continue reading Sincere Sympathizer or Moody Mama: Disciplining Delinquents With Decency

Quirky Quips and Quintessentially Quizzical Queries – Schooling Options for My Queen of Hearts

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم This month, my daughter A’ishah, who is about to turn 5 years old in May, started first grade at her school, DA Junior Model School Beach View (which is located right behind Royal Rodale on Khayaban-e-Seher, Defence Phase 6). It was an emotional and proud day for me. I cannot deny … Continue reading Quirky Quips and Quintessentially Quizzical Queries – Schooling Options for My Queen of Hearts

Bundles of Joy, Balls of Fire

  “Come inside!” I hear Ammi’s voice as she squints outside from behind the French windows. “In a while; we’re making the doll camp,” I reply, sitting in the middle of the courtyard in the blazing sun, tenaciously trying to balance a ragged piece of cloth on four tiny sticks. “But it’s too hot! Come … Continue reading Bundles of Joy, Balls of Fire

Muslim Sons: Reconciling Family Relocation with Elderly Parents’ Servitude

*Names of people have been changed, but all the people and incidents mentioned are factual. Mohsin* is in a fix. He finally wants to get married, but has no particular girl in mind. He currently lives with his parents, and is the only son. His parents want him to live in their house with his wife and kids in … Continue reading Muslim Sons: Reconciling Family Relocation with Elderly Parents’ Servitude

The Joint Family System in Islam: Challenges and Solutions

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم All statements and examples quoted in the post below are factual. Nothing is based on fiction. I once read a quote in Reader’s Digest, back in my childhood, which went something like this: Negative thinking is akin to a step-mother. If her step-child doesn’t wash his hands, he is dirty. If … Continue reading The Joint Family System in Islam: Challenges and Solutions

“O Lord, Let it Be a Boy”

Its not like it's an alien concept for me; I had heard the 'hearsay' about it even before marriage and motherhood. Even the Quran talks about it more than once. Its especially common among rural, uneducated villagers, and most "educated and enlightened" Asians in particular (Arabs, Indians, Chinese, Pakistani's).   I admit I never really understood this belief that's so staunchly … Continue reading “O Lord, Let it Be a Boy”